December 29th, 2014
03:52 PM ET

Why giving shouldn't be a solitary activity

By Nicholas Kristof and Sheryl WuDunn

Editor's note: Nicholas Kristof and Sheryl WuDunn are the authors of A Path Appears: Transforming Lives, Creating Opportunity. This is the second in a series of three guest posts.

Secular people often make giving a solitary activity at the end of the year, one that feels like a sacrifice. That’s the wrong way to think about giving back. We learned a lot from churches and temples and the way they turn giving into an enjoyable, uplifting social activity. Our profile of a master pastor at a mega-church, Bill Hybels, reveals some of the magic he employs.  We all are social animals and when we do things with a group of people we like, the activity becomes more fun.

So form a book club and engage in a few volunteer or giving activities together—or link your book club to Book Clubs for Change, bookclubs4change.org. Choose a need in your community or an area of the world that you all care about. Then choose a topic and an organization you might work with. Or maybe consider an on-location trip to the area and meet some of the people you want to help?

Or join a chapter of Dining for Women, which is one of the secular organizations that borrows from the religious notion of fellowship and joyous giving for a cause.  DFW has guests bring a pot luck dish to a host's home and then they all donate the money they would spend at a restaurant to a chosen cause empowering women worldwide.   Some groups have a subcommittee screen a list of finalists and the group votes on a final selection. In A Path Appears, we list some other great organizations—there’s even one called Beer for Books—that make giving a social and fun occasion.

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  1. chri§§y

    Hmmm this might just be a "lister free" safe zone!

    January 10, 2015 at 11:10 am | Reply
  2. chri§§y

    This is where ill be checking back @ philip!

    January 10, 2015 at 12:08 pm | Reply
  3. chri§§y

    Lol i see you have not caught on yet!

    January 10, 2015 at 12:37 pm | Reply
  4. chri§§y

    And i HAVE NOT posted ANYTHING on that earlier thread after my "seek and yee shall find" post even tho i have READ the filth posted under my name! May you ADAM rot in eternal hell you pig of a man!

    January 10, 2015 at 1:11 pm | Reply
  5. chri§§y

    Todays Quirky News: Police in Oregon busted a meth lab that had been in business 20 years! Man its a shame to see another mom and pop business go down, aint it? Lol

    January 10, 2015 at 7:14 pm | Reply
  6. chri§§y

    I know right? Lmao how did they pull that off for that long? Them cops must be dumb as posts huh?

    January 10, 2015 at 7:38 pm | Reply
  7. chri§§y

    And yet its still Chicago and Detroit getting bad raps? Lol smh!

    January 10, 2015 at 7:59 pm | Reply
    • banasy©

      A lot of open space in Oregon to get into trouble with, Chrissy; 20 years unnoticed is a tad bit odd, though.

      January 11, 2015 at 1:16 pm | Reply
  8. chri§§y

    Several days later and still clueless.

    January 11, 2015 at 1:16 pm | Reply
    • banasy©

      Well, he's a bit tipsy right now, Chrissy; we really don't need to be subjected to that!

      January 11, 2015 at 2:04 pm | Reply
  9. chri§§y

    Yea i gathered that already @ banasy! And to tell the truth i just dont have the freakin patience to deal with one more BIPOLAR azz like him anyway! Im sick of them using alcohol for their excuses!!!

    January 11, 2015 at 2:37 pm | Reply
    • banasy©

      I have zero patience for ignorant drunks, myself.

      January 11, 2015 at 4:27 pm | Reply
      • Philip

        What is your definition of Blasphemy, Donna. And contrast that with God's definition that is clearly recorded even in you Confused...ahem. "Catholic" Bible.

        January 11, 2015 at 8:44 pm |
      • banasy©

        It took you long enough to figure this out.

        Blashemy is speaking sacrilegiously of holy writings and God/Allah.

        Which are subjective by the person who is interpreting those writings.

        Which is why laws in this country are not derived from religion.
        As it should be.

        Because I am sure you would not want to be forced to abide by the blasphemy laws interpreted by one who is Muslim, for instance.

        Catholic still does not "literally" mean confused; it is time you discarded that erroneous thought.
        You are "literally" wrong on that.

        January 11, 2015 at 9:39 pm |
  10. chri§§y

    Gmta! Lol

    January 11, 2015 at 7:50 pm | Reply
  11. Philip

    Oh, let's just all write it off as a drunk Timothy of the bible's ramblings shall we? Will make our evenings quaint.

    January 11, 2015 at 8:41 pm | Reply
    • banasy©

      Comparing yourself to Timothy now?

      That's quaint.

      January 11, 2015 at 9:45 pm | Reply
  12. Philip

    My clothes are dry now. Ttyl

    January 11, 2015 at 8:46 pm | Reply
  13. Philip

    Can see Donna right now looking-up what God's definition of Blasphemy is. If only to refresh herself and not look stuider.

    January 11, 2015 at 8:54 pm | Reply
    • banasy©

      Do you have a problem retaining what you read?

      Because I am not the one who looks mighty stupid right now.

      January 11, 2015 at 9:44 pm | Reply
  14. Philip

    Ya know what funny is when you take a red shirt out of the dryer and thought that was the one you were wearing. Lol

    January 11, 2015 at 9:05 pm | Reply
    • banasy©

      And I'm supposedly stupid. Right.

      January 11, 2015 at 9:47 pm | Reply
  15. Philip

    It's snowing here. 🙂

    January 11, 2015 at 9:06 pm | Reply
  16. Philip

    Jesus did not speak to drunkards. Or did he?

    January 11, 2015 at 9:09 pm | Reply
  17. chri§§y

    Sure took you long enough to...Get a clue! Or in this case, several! Youre slippin! Lol

    January 11, 2015 at 9:36 pm | Reply
  18. chri§§y

    And how would YOU define how you go from zero to fifty...from the sweetest guy on the planet...to the meanest cuss in the universe???

    January 11, 2015 at 9:39 pm | Reply
  19. chri§§y

    Lol at least hes not pretending to be "the second comming of" like that other idiot!

    January 11, 2015 at 9:59 pm | Reply
    • banasy©

      Shhhh! He'll come over here!

      January 11, 2015 at 10:04 pm | Reply
  20. chri§§y

    Todays Quirky News: A boston woman found out she was pregnant...and gave birth to a 10 lb baby an hour later. Dr. Oz calls it a "miracle weight loss cure!"

    January 11, 2015 at 10:10 pm | Reply
    • banasy©

      You know...I just can't fathom how someone would go through an entire pregnancy and not know it...

      January 11, 2015 at 10:27 pm | Reply
  21. chri§§y

    And looks like the fresh clothes outta the dryer put philip to sleep! Lmao

    January 11, 2015 at 10:14 pm | Reply
  22. chri§§y

    Its been known to happen many times. And the story is true...i just ad~libbed the final sentence! Lol this is chrissy reporting Todays QUIRKY news...signing off until tomorrow! Lmfao!

    January 11, 2015 at 10:32 pm | Reply
  23. chri§§y

    Just like i cant fathom how a shirt out of the dryer could do, what a fifth (at least) could not? Lol

    January 11, 2015 at 10:51 pm | Reply
    • Philip

      Laughing your fluffy ass off? he he

      January 12, 2015 at 3:20 am | Reply
  24. chri§§y

    Or...i should say "presumably" a fifth.

    January 11, 2015 at 11:04 pm | Reply
  25. Philip

    You chicks ain't got a clue about me. Not one dang clue. I hope you two are snoring loudly. 🙂

    January 12, 2015 at 3:22 am | Reply
    • banasy©

      At 2:22 AM?
      Yes, I was sleeping soundly.

      I would also say you do not have a clue about us, either; but of course it is perfectly acceptable for you to "speculate" about us, our lives, and our families, but verboten to fight back when silly lies are printed because....why, again?

      There is that saying: if one cannot take it, one should never dish it out.

      I hope you have a glorious Monday, Philip.

      January 12, 2015 at 9:51 am | Reply
  26. chri§§y

    Aww did your feathers get a little ruffled? The truth does that sometimes...dont worry youll get over it! Or dont. Either way i dont much care! You keep dishin it out and then get all defensive when we dont accept it? Too bad! What i posted was true....one day the sweetist guy on the planet, the next the worst cuss in the universe!!!!!!

    January 12, 2015 at 4:28 am | Reply
  27. chri§§y

    And if its not booze than it has to be drugs. Given your feelings about drugs the logical conclusion must be booze! Unless your comments about drugs has just been a smokescreen to cover up drug use? But having spent a good deal of my life around drunkards that seems to fit more! Symtoms are strikingly memorable to my recollection of being subjected to that very same sad behavior by others. And its not something that i wish to have a regular replay of!

    January 12, 2015 at 4:37 am | Reply
  28. chri§§y

    I HOPE he has the same kinda day he gives everyone else!

    January 12, 2015 at 12:31 pm | Reply
  29. chri§§y

    IF, however he decides to act like a civil human when he returns...and is taking requests for his MC gig....maybe some Bruno Mars...Uptown Funk, would be good lmao!

    January 12, 2015 at 3:40 pm | Reply
  30. chri§§y¥¥¥¥

    And yes ive changed up my name. Due to the ja ck a zz troll. May have to relocate to a lesser road traveled as well. Im thinkin the oldest Interview on display. Cyall there! 😉

    January 12, 2015 at 5:14 pm | Reply
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