Why giving shouldn't be a solitary activity
By Nicholas Kristof and Sheryl WuDunn
Editor's note: Nicholas Kristof and Sheryl WuDunn are the authors of A Path Appears: Transforming Lives, Creating Opportunity. This is the second in a series of three guest posts.
Secular people often make giving a solitary activity at the end of the year, one that feels like a sacrifice. That’s the wrong way to think about giving back. We learned a lot from churches and temples and the way they turn giving into an enjoyable, uplifting social activity. Our profile of a master pastor at a mega-church, Bill Hybels, reveals some of the magic he employs. We all are social animals and when we do things with a group of people we like, the activity becomes more fun.
So form a book club and engage in a few volunteer or giving activities together—or link your book club to Book Clubs for Change, bookclubs4change.org. Choose a need in your community or an area of the world that you all care about. Then choose a topic and an organization you might work with. Or maybe consider an on-location trip to the area and meet some of the people you want to help?
Or join a chapter of Dining for Women, which is one of the secular organizations that borrows from the religious notion of fellowship and joyous giving for a cause.  DFW has guests bring a pot luck dish to a host's home and then they all donate the money they would spend at a restaurant to a chosen cause empowering women worldwide.  Some groups have a subcommittee screen a list of finalists and the group votes on a final selection. In A Path Appears, we list some other great organizations—there’s even one called Beer for Books—that make giving a social and fun occasion.
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Why did US Congress make it legal for campaign donor Meat&Dairy Catlle Association to start using drugs to make their cattle fat and more profitable, and according to US gov studies, make US fatter too? Why? They did this in the mid-90's. Without even asking US permission to do so! And they work for US! Not the other way around as old ladies would have you believe.
They also legalized sodomy and divorce without asking US first, in case u didn't notice.
...not to mention adultery and the wanton spreading of AIDS. ALL legal in the USA. ILLEGAL in Uganda, even.
"Let's kill all the gays! Let's be like Uganda!"
Fock off @ philip! Gn @ banasy...sorry but i have to leave you with this hot mess or im gonna blow up!
really. The Supreme Court did not ask US what our opinion was on not quaranteening those first few men who came down with AIDS! They just outlawed doctors doing so. The SC did NOT ask US if we wanted to be eating cattle made fat by drugs that make US fatter too. They just did it. A new Supreme Court TOLD you what you would be eating, and what your husband would be allowed to do to you in bed. Got it?
Your husband can legally odomize you. And there is NOTHING you can legally do about it, according to the new Supreme Court! Got it? So bend over if I want to. Ain't NOTHING legal you can do about it, woman.
*sodomize. According to the SC, your husband can punch you in the ass with his schlong, and you have ZERO legal say in the matter. So, shut up and bend over you housewives loving Bill Clinton.
Scuze me? A1 Steak Sauce is for dummies who think meat does not taste good. (not unlike coffee creamers and sugarers do to the taste of natural coffe. With artificial sweeteners, no less) For fat asses who think a 16 oz steroid hormone steak smothered in catsup is better than an 8 oz. all natural cut of beef. Ya'll be dumb is all I can say.
Ha Ha. Your husband or boyfriend can now legally sodomize you. And there is NOTHING you can do about it according to US law. ha ha. And you approve! Amazing stupidity.
ooh baby. And by way of the Supreme Court.
@Philip,
If you are not going to address one of us, I'm going to go ahead and assume that this is your vanity writing for the evening.
Because, of course, nothing you have written is applicable to me; I suspect it is the same for Chrissy.
With one exception: adding anything to a great steak is an abomination.
I shall agree with you on that.
Lol. How many great steaks do Americans eat these days? Americans prefer steroid hormone meat with ketchup.
No. Your hubby can legally sodomize you and there is nothing in US laws to stop him. Get a clue.
Your hubby can now cheat on you legally. You have no say.
Your last two posts do not apply to me; I do not understand why you would think that just because it is legal, it is practiced.
And, oh, yes, I have a say. I'm sorry if you do not respect the morals of others; my husband and I respect and love each other enough to keep our vows.
I suspect this is why you remain unmarried. You do not.
Doesn't matter. Men change their minds as all people do. Your hubby could change his mind about how he treated you in bed and according to the SC, you would have ZERO legal recource. Sodomy has been legalized. And you approve. So reap what you have sown. I hope you get legally sodomized so you can know.
I cannot speak for other men; I speak directly to what I know.
My husband would not.
Sorry to disabuse you of your notion that because your marriage was dysfunctional, everyone else's must be, as well.
This is not the reality of my marriage, and you are simply displaying your ignorance when you try to ascribe your thoughts onto anyone else.
"I hope you get legally sodomized so you know."
And that, right there, is the most telling sentence you ever written.
Legal sodomy is between consenting partners; and you, Philip, are a spiteful, hateful mysogynistic little man whose world is passing him by while he shakes his wee little fist at the sky and dreams of revenge on everyone, everywhere, because he has been hurt in the past.
Get over yourself; you are unimportant in the big scheme of things, and unimportant to my life.
I must give you this, though; you provide me with some of the biggest laughs I've ever encountered over the net; albeit, I'm sure, unintentionally.
"I hope you get legally sodomized, so you know."
Did you stamp your foot whilst saying that?
No. Sodomy is just legal in the USA. Nothing you can do about it now.
I don't care if it's legal; I do not understand why you do.
If you're not indulging in it, it doesn't affect you.
I do not indulge in it; it doesn't affect me.
oh K. 7;30pm. Done eating my sirloin and am going to clean up the mess made at my shop today. Was a blizzard cold day but still turned a hefty profit off of you dummies. Omg Americans are stupid. Might bbl.
am when am done r going to pound a 1/2 pint of JD. So mind your own beeswax, Got it? Keep your nose out of my business you freaking fat ass Supreme Court "Justices".
Why are Supreme Court justices all fat? Hmmmm?
Because if they look like you, you will listen to them! he he. Is a fact.
Their is nothing in marriage vows regarding sodomy. Your Supreme Court has decided that for you. Hope your hubby turns gay and sodomizes the hell out of you and there is NOTHING you can legally do about it. Stranger things have happened. So do not dismiss this likelihood.
You are quite stupid, aren't you? There's nothing in marriage vows about sex, period.
I dismiss the likelihood because I know my spouse, and you do not. You are comparing him to your basest desires, which are not the same for every man.
I have been married to this man for over 21 years, and have known him for 26. I assure you, because it was suddenly made legal isn't going to incite a desire that was not previously present.
Get over yourself. You are flat out wrong on this as it relates to my marriage, and your incessant preoccupation with sodomy will not change that.
"Hope your hubby turns gay and sodomizes the hell out of you and there is NOTHING you can legally do about it."
Lmfao!! You have got to be the stupidest man alive; I know that you haven't a clue about sex, but surely you have heard that many hetero couples have anal?
(Pssst...hoping you comprehend this: my husband and I do not engage in this activity, however.)
I am amused that you call me a prude at times when you are clearly the more repressed, and (dare I say it?) anal-retentive; you literally make me laugh out loud.
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Dumb as a focking post! With conversing skills of a c o c k a tiel!!!
Yea RIGHT! Lmao 1/2 pint lololololol! Half a gal ya mean!
a gallon hen younger. Am older and wiser now, chrissy. What is your dependence?
*when, not hen. No offense. lmao
If I were a boy even just for a day
I'd roll out of bed in the morning
And throw on what I wanted and go
Drink beer with the guys
And chase after girls
I'd kick it with who I wanted
And I'd never get confronted for it
'Cause they stick up for me
{Chorus}
If I were a boy
I think I could understand
How it feels to love a girl
I swear I'd be a better man
I'd listen to her
'Cause I know how it hurts
When you lose the one you wanted
'Cause he's taking you for granted
And everything you had got destroyed
{Verse}
If I were a boy
I would turn off my phone
Tell everyone it's broken
So they'd think that I was sleeping alone
I'd put myself first
And make the rules as I go
'Cause I know that she'd be faithful
Waiting for me to come home
To come home...
{Chorus}
If I were a boy
I think I could understand
How it feels to love a girl
I swear I'd be a better man
I'd listen to her
'Cause I know how it hurts
When you lose the one you wanted (wanted)
'Cause he's taking you for granted (granted)
And everything you had got destroyed
{Bridge}
It's a little too late for you to come back
Say it's just a mistake
Think I'd forgive you like that
If you thought I would wait for you
You thought wrong
{Chorus }
But you're just a boy
You don't understand
Yeah you don't understand, oh
How it feels to love a girl
Someday you wish you were a better man
You don't listen to her
You don't care how it hurts
Until you lose the one you wanted
'Cause you're taking her for granted
And everything you had got destroyed
But you're just a boy!
Read more: Beyonce Knowles – If I Were A Boy Lyrics | MetroLyrics
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Well, wish to chat more w/yous but Yawn. 🙂
Whoa!!! Yup hes just blown Adam outta the park for all time PIGGISH posts!!!! And that AINT something to be proud of....unless youre striving to be the most HATED cuss in the universe!!!!
I have been laughing non-stop at his desperation, Chrissy.
The next or possibly the next after US president that will by executive authority outlaw sodomy. For it is written. You heard it here first.
If you are a sodomite you need to look into moving to Belize or something. Never was there a corporate fascist regime that did not turn on sodomites.
First they lue them out of their closets and then slam the door on them. The history of nations.
*lure
Who. Cares.
Very few care. Which is my point.
Probably because it is none of their business; or, yours.
Good grief! Shut the he!! up already!
Because hes the "bedroom police" remember lol? TMI dude! Lmao!
The US Supreme Court tell you what you can and cannot legally do in bedrooms, chrissy. You have no say in the matter, legally now.
You can legally cheat on your man, and your man can legally sodomize you now. You have no say in the matter, as far as law is concerned.
You ignorant man, until the SC stands over you and directs your bedtime activities, what they say is legal isn't compelling you to freaking DO it.
Are you that bloody of a sheep that you suddenly go, "hey, it's legal, I MUST do it?" Don't a sweet that; you have been listing all night that since it is legal, you WILL do it...right?
Jesus, you're stupid. Just be quiet. If someone forced you into sodomy, that still is rape, and that is NOT legal. If someone cheats, that is still grounds for divorce.
Your point is moot; drop it. You appear unbalanced right now. You should really just go to sleep.
It has been said over that legislating morality is doomed to fail, Chrissy.
What consenting adults do in the privacy of their homes is not the government's, or anyone else's business.
Im thinkin he better get on that "slow boat" to Uganda! Ya know the one i mean? Its like a "short bus" cept its for water! Lol
ell oh ell chrussty britches. Good one?
good night alls. 🙂 See ya tomorrow or not.
I assume you're off to sodomize someone, since it's legal, and all.
I found one! She's over here!
I know this @ banasy! Obviously his interpretating is different than everyone else! And im mentally thinking of my neighbors, and i dont wanta think about them kissing, much less anything else! Whatever they do in THEIR bedrooms, i do NOT care!!!!
I know, Chrissy, I know.
Personally, I think it would be hilarious to think of Ruth Bader Ginsburg in the corner of the room yelling, "It's legal! I said DO IT!"
And @ philip...if you have "chrussty britches"...perhaps you shoulda done ALL your laundry the other day and not just your red shirts eh?
Lmao ok now THAT was funny! Hey, did you know that its warmer in Juno Alaska than it is where either one of us is? By alot!
You're kidding! What's the temp there?
@Dog Catcher. She's over here!
38 presently! We are 4 degrees presently!
Ok well sleepytime tea is kickin in so im outta here, GN and ttyt! 😉
[whistling loudly] Hey @Dog Catcher. I found the other one! She's right here! Lmao
I say call the dog catcher on the dogs that dragged them in here.