December 29th, 2014
03:52 PM ET

Why giving shouldn't be a solitary activity

By Nicholas Kristof and Sheryl WuDunn

Editor's note: Nicholas Kristof and Sheryl WuDunn are the authors of A Path Appears: Transforming Lives, Creating Opportunity. This is the second in a series of three guest posts.

Secular people often make giving a solitary activity at the end of the year, one that feels like a sacrifice. That’s the wrong way to think about giving back. We learned a lot from churches and temples and the way they turn giving into an enjoyable, uplifting social activity. Our profile of a master pastor at a mega-church, Bill Hybels, reveals some of the magic he employs.  We all are social animals and when we do things with a group of people we like, the activity becomes more fun.

So form a book club and engage in a few volunteer or giving activities together—or link your book club to Book Clubs for Change, Choose a need in your community or an area of the world that you all care about. Then choose a topic and an organization you might work with. Or maybe consider an on-location trip to the area and meet some of the people you want to help?

Or join a chapter of Dining for Women, which is one of the secular organizations that borrows from the religious notion of fellowship and joyous giving for a cause.  DFW has guests bring a pot luck dish to a host's home and then they all donate the money they would spend at a restaurant to a chosen cause empowering women worldwide.   Some groups have a subcommittee screen a list of finalists and the group votes on a final selection. In A Path Appears, we list some other great organizations—there’s even one called Beer for Books—that make giving a social and fun occasion.

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  1. yot philip

    Hell is an idea.

    January 1, 2015 at 2:10 pm | Reply
  2. yot philip

    You have not proved that Hell exists. You are brain damaged by Rx pharmacy products and so want to believe in such butchery. YA'lls am sick people pointing the finger at me. is all.

    January 1, 2015 at 2:16 pm | Reply
    • banasy©

      Are you ever going to answer this question?

      So enlighten me, oh enlightened one. Just what new modern day techniques should modern day firefighters utilize in their quest to extinguish fires ?

      January 1, 2015 at 2:31 pm | Reply
      • yot philip

        Foam, you stupid woman.

        January 1, 2015 at 6:56 pm |
      • bobcat2u

        You do understand that foam is still water based right ? The foam just makes the "water" more efficient. Foam is what we used on aircraft fires when I was with crash & rescue in Nam.

        January 1, 2015 at 7:42 pm |
      • banasy©

        You know he had to go look it up, Rawr, because it took him over 4 hours to answer.

        January 1, 2015 at 8:46 pm |
  3. chri§§y

    You KNOW nothing about me except whats in your imagination! But you SHOW your drunken stupidity to us pretty regularly so it doesnt take much of an imagination to know what YOURE all about! Blogtard!

    January 1, 2015 at 2:29 pm | Reply
    • yot philip

      U r stealing my lines now. U lover of hellfire torment c unt.

      January 1, 2015 at 2:34 pm | Reply
      • banasy©

        Are you going to answer this or not, hypocrite?

        So enlighten me, oh enlightened one. Just what new modern day techniques should modern day firefighters utilize in their quest to extinguish fires ?

        January 1, 2015 at 2:37 pm |
  4. yot philip

    Fu*k you Donna Banas. A fat hag biatch wanting to believe Hellfire is where u go. Stupid c unt.

    January 1, 2015 at 2:32 pm | Reply
    • banasy©

      Philip says:
      December 25, 2014 at 5:30 am
      To: banasy©
      From: Philip
      Dear Donna. I am so sorry for calling you the c word. I just get so upset with you sometimes. I promise never to do it again. Please forgive me.
      Sincerely, Philip Douglas.


      January 1, 2015 at 2:34 pm | Reply
    • banasy©

      Oh, and Liarman? I have stated repeatedly that I don't believe hell exists.

      So, you're lying once again.


      January 1, 2015 at 2:35 pm | Reply
  5. chri§§y

    And i may have not proved hell exists but YOU sure have! It exists wherever YOU are! Have fun talking to yourself now k.

    January 1, 2015 at 2:33 pm | Reply
  6. chri§§y

    @ philip...ya still

    January 1, 2015 at 2:35 pm | Reply
  7. yot philip

    You? Who the first*k are you to prove Hell exists? You stupid retard.

    January 1, 2015 at 2:36 pm | Reply
    • banasy©

      Tsk tsk. The boy's unraveling.

      January 1, 2015 at 2:38 pm | Reply
  8. yot philip

    You r in fact a c unt. Donna. I did not do this. Just happened to notice you r in fact a c unt is all.

    January 1, 2015 at 2:40 pm | Reply
    • banasy©

      You, in fact, lied.
      You, in fact, cannot back up your bs with facts.

      So, again, answer this:

      So enlighten me, oh enlightened one. Just what new modern day techniques should modern day firefighters utilize in their quest to extinguish fires ?

      January 1, 2015 at 2:42 pm | Reply
  9. yot philip

    A big fat juicy c unt is all u r.

    January 1, 2015 at 2:42 pm | Reply
    • banasy©

      Philip says:
      December 25, 2014 at 5:30 am
      To: banasy©
      From: Philip
      Dear Donna. I am so sorry for calling you the c word. I just get so upset with you sometimes. I promise never to do it again. Please forgive me.
      Sincerely, Philip Douglas.

      January 1, 2015 at 2:44 pm | Reply
  10. yot philip

    Tisk risk. Her calorie counting is in vain.

    January 1, 2015 at 2:49 pm | Reply
  11. chri§§y

    Now @ KNOW no one is as intelligent as pullup! Thats why hes just a dumb window tinter who only works half the time and drowns himself in whiskey the rest of the time! Cuz hes soooo much more intelligent than EVERYONE else! Too bad he keeps huffing that paint, he coulda been president. Oh i forgot...he thinks hes equivelant to God! My bad!

    January 1, 2015 at 2:56 pm | Reply
  12. chri§§y

    Lol tsk tsk your brain cell count is in vain. They missed that blinking light on your forehead that says "Vacant Lot" ready to be condemned!

    January 1, 2015 at 2:59 pm | Reply
  13. yot philip

    Yet your own daughter is dying, you ho.

    January 1, 2015 at 3:02 pm | Reply
    • banasy©

      And only you would delight in that, you ugly man.

      January 1, 2015 at 3:09 pm | Reply
  14. yot philip

    A hoe is all. Ho hum is all. A freak among humans.

    January 1, 2015 at 3:06 pm | Reply
    • banasy©

      Finally confronting your reflection?

      January 1, 2015 at 3:10 pm | Reply
      • yot philip

        Just what does NASA tech us.u old bag?

        January 1, 2015 at 3:21 pm |
      • banasy©

        NASA tech us?

        Drunk posting so early? My goodness. You should probably stop posting while you have a shred of dignity left.

        But before you go, answer this:

        So enlighten me, oh enlightened one. Just what new modern day techniques should modern day firefighters utilize in their quest to extinguish fires ?

        Since, you know, you supposedly know better.

        January 1, 2015 at 3:27 pm |
  15. yot philip

    Hell is in fact a figment of your sordid and vulgar minds.

    January 1, 2015 at 6:59 pm | Reply
    • banasy©

      Who in the hell are you trying to convince, coward?

      And stop hiding behind Jesus's robes. He isn't fooled.

      January 1, 2015 at 7:27 pm | Reply
  16. yot philip

    Americans only give to cover-up for their taking. Care to debate this simple truth?

    January 1, 2015 at 7:02 pm | Reply
    • banasy©

      Similar to you covering up your lies?

      January 1, 2015 at 7:28 pm | Reply
  17. yot philip

    Foam fire fighting tech., you stupid Donna.

    January 1, 2015 at 7:04 pm | Reply
    • banasy©

      That's not applicable in every situation, NOR is it cost effective, you ignorant ass.

      Dear God, you're stupid.

      January 1, 2015 at 7:23 pm | Reply
  18. yot philip

    C.U.N.T. Got it?

    January 1, 2015 at 7:06 pm | Reply
    • banasy©


      You can't understand normal thinking.

      January 1, 2015 at 7:25 pm | Reply
  19. chri§§y

    Lol @ much as he froths at the mouth he could put his own damn fire out!

    January 1, 2015 at 7:50 pm | Reply
    • bobcat2u

      Damn chrissy !!! Now THAT was funny. I don't care who you are.

      January 1, 2015 at 8:13 pm | Reply
  20. chri§§y

    Its still a moot point...hes still just a window tinter therefore he AINT the brightest crayola in the box!

    January 1, 2015 at 7:53 pm | Reply
  21. yot philip

    Oh yeah. Let's have Philip as the bad guy and not lazy men paying doctors to say they are "disabled".

    January 1, 2015 at 8:05 pm | Reply
    • yot philip

      "Bi polar" they claim. Lmao. No kidding. They DO claim that so as to not ever have to work again! Lazy men actually DO pay doctors to make it seem as if they are worse-off than mentally retarded people. They really do this injustice nationwide. F U for being blind and not seeing it.

      January 1, 2015 at 8:09 pm | Reply
      • banasy©

        You've been asked many times for the citation backing up your claim that people are committing fraud using bi-polar as the reason for disability.

        You have yet to do so.

        You made it up.

        January 1, 2015 at 8:42 pm |
      • Philip

        January 3, 2015 at 6:46 am |
  22. bobcat2u

    I just ran across this on the INQUISTER site and thought ya'll might like find it "interesting" ? It may be right up someones alley.

    End of the world conspiracy theories are apparently taking a hint from Hollywood. If you can’t come up with something original, might as well do a remake. This year, the predictions for 2015 seem to focus on the apocalypse prophesied by Nostradamus, and even the Mayan calendar is getting its sequel.

    Yes, indeed, this is a face palm moment.


    Well, I thought it was funny. And speaking of funny, I could use a shot of "weird news".

    January 1, 2015 at 8:10 pm | Reply
  23. chri§§y

    Thanks lol. He just brings out the worst in me what can i say! I honestly never thought it was possible to dislike someone soooo much but damn, he makes it easy!

    January 1, 2015 at 8:17 pm | Reply
    • yot philip

      Yeah. Bobsnot's copy/paste jokes r getting old by now. I hear you old lady with chrussty panties.

      January 1, 2015 at 8:22 pm | Reply
  24. yot philip

    Lazy men sitting around all day telling jokes on CNN are alright by you old f'ing hags..But a hard working man is above your grasp and so you get angry, is all.
    Here. Suck-up some juice from scrawny armed man named BobcatToou. And feel comfortable with your worn out coochies.

    January 1, 2015 at 8:20 pm | Reply
    • banasy©

      You are jealous and your angst is made clear with every post denigrating people you cannot hold a candle to.

      January 1, 2015 at 8:45 pm | Reply
  25. chri§§y

    And he DOES put a whole new spin on bi polar for certain! I vote he be deported to the north pole! He wont even need shelter cuz as cold as he is he will do just fine!

    January 1, 2015 at 8:20 pm | Reply
  26. chri§§y

    You mean retired people telling jokes on the internet all day are worse than mean, spiteful drunkards calling people filthy names??? You have got to be kidding? Lolololol

    January 1, 2015 at 8:25 pm | Reply
  27. yot philip

    Lookit Chrussty thinking "bi polar" is real.
    "Stupid Girl". A memorial song played by the band" Garbage". And right-up Chrissy's alley slash bunghole.

    January 1, 2015 at 8:26 pm | Reply
  28. chri§§y

    Like YOU would have any kinda clue what kinda panties i wear you per verted old goat! You must be talking about your own panties!

    January 1, 2015 at 8:28 pm | Reply
  29. chri§§y

    Keep publicizing your stupidity gay boy! Did you have to fight with your wife because you always wanted to wear her undies? Idiot!

    January 1, 2015 at 8:32 pm | Reply
  30. bobcat2u

    It's sad that you use a defense of a retired person doing it. Why not ? I don't "have" to work anymore. But I still do, because I want to. On the other hand, for someone who claims a business, you're here as much as the rest of us. Day and night. What's up with that ?

    January 1, 2015 at 8:46 pm | Reply
    • banasy©

      Because it makes a small man feel better about his shitty life choices, I suppose, Bobcat.

      January 1, 2015 at 8:53 pm | Reply
    • Philip

      Look at bobsnot and banutzi gossiping about me again. Are you really an old lady toob? You certainly sound like . And I'm not here early as much as you are bob&donna. And as if being self-employed is a claim someone would make. Asif it's really something special. How cute.

      January 3, 2015 at 6:30 am | Reply
      • Philip

        Are you an old lady too, bob? (rather)

        January 3, 2015 at 6:31 am |
      • Philip

        *am not here nearly as much as the Bob&Donna troup. Not even half as much as the Bobsi twins.

        January 3, 2015 at 6:52 am |
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